Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a
word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it
will give grace to those who hear…Be kind to one another, tender-hearted,
forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. Ephesians
4:29, 32
Life is
Relationships. If you can’t do
relationships, you’re going to have difficulty with life!
The first relationship is vertical, with God. The second relationship is horizontal,
with others and one affects the other. We love, because He first loved us.
1 John 4:19.
In Pastoral Care here at NSBC the five main relationship
issues we deal with the most are Anger, Communication, Boundaries,
Marriage, and Spiritual. Phil. 2:3-5
Five Powerful
Transforming Words:
- Acceptance v. 32
It’s communicated in what we say and do and how we say and do.
We must look beyond faults, flaws, and failures and accept them where they are and for who they are.
God has granted us Unlimited and unmerited
acceptance. Matthew
10:8
- Affection
Affection is expressed through tender words of expressions and physical touch.
Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Giving/Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch - Appreciation
Express thanks, appreciation, commendation for people and who they are; the character of their person.
These expressions should be done verbally, privately, and publically.
Expressing appreciation requires personal interaction. - Attention
To give attention is to convey the appropriate interest, concern, and care.
Stop, look, listen, and ask. - Approval
We show approval when we acknowledge the worth and value in our relationship with that person.
Strengthens their character and self-confidence.
May be expressed in words, actions, and body language.
